Christmas and New Year are times when you become acutely aware of what is missing in your life.
A former client of mine used to complain bitterly about her partner, blaming him for every negative aspect of her life.
She left him, astonished to find she felt just as miserable without him.
Had she examined her feelings honestly, she should have taken some responsibility for the part she played in remaining miserable.
When you have been together for some time, imperfections become increasingly apparent.
Problems surrounding work, money or relatives can also increase the pressure you are under.
Sometimes it feels safer to lash out at your partner than deal directly with difficult issues.
Instead of dragging up the past, try working on the present and future of your relationship.
Make 2001 the year you take responsibility for the way you are, try not to blame your partner for everything you feel.
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