Natasha Hamilton’s endured pain and heartbreak over the years. But, as the mother-of-four reveals to Gabrielle Fagan, a new baby has changed her outlook

It’s understandable that Atomic Kitten star Natasha Hamilton is wary of making personal predictions about her future, but you can tell by her glowing appearance and beaming smile that she believes she’s finally found Mr Right.

After three doomed attempts to find personal happiness over the last decade, it seems the singer and actress has achieved the contentment which has eluded her for so long with Ritchie Neville, actor and singer with band, Five, with whom she has an eight-month-old daughter, Ella.

“I hope with all my heart this time it’s forever and the happy-ever-after ending I’ve always wanted,” the 32-year-old says fervently.

Their romance blossomed shortly after her six-year marriage to businessman, Riad Erraji, father of her four-year-old son, Alfie, broke down in 2013.

She also has a son, Harry, 10, from a two-year relationship with dancer, Gavin Hatcher, and eldest son, Josh, 12, from her partnership with nightclub owner and Celebrity Love Island winner, Fran Cosgrave.

“I don’t think I’ve ever been as happy and secure as I am now. I’ve never had a relationship before where I was able to talk so honestly and openly about my feelings as I can with Ritchie,” she says.

For the first time, she reveals how “wary” she was about contemplating a new relationship after her previous unhappy experiences, that a period of soul-searching’s enabled her to “make peace with my past” and how she wants to counter hurtful criticism of her private life and above all protect her children from any “negativity”.

“I don’t fall in love willy-nilly – there has to be something really special there and there was with me and Ritchie. But I certainly wasn’t looking for a relationship after separating from my husband. Actually, I felt it wasn’t the right time and I was very wary, nervous because my trust levels were really low,” she admits, recalling their early dates.

They met when she and her bandmates, Kerry Katona and Liz McClarnon together with Ritchie and ‘Five’ bandmates (J.Brown, Sean Conlon, Abs Breen and Scott Robinson), appeared in ITV’s The Big Reunion and took part in the subsequent tour.

“I hadn’t seen Ritchie since I was 16, when we knew each other because we were both in bands and I definitely never fancied him then. Actually, I thought the boys in Five were arrogant and he thought us Kittens were ‘gobby Northerners’,” she says.

“It was a surprise to realise he was actually a really nice guy. For quite a while, we were just friends bantering and getting on well together on the tour for the series. When it ended, we began working together writing music and it was then I found myself falling in love with him. In the end, we talked it through and I felt some things are just meant to be and you can’t deny your feelings.”

Hamilton explains: “He’s been through a lot in his life, like me, so we just seem to understand each other. We feel very blessed to have found each other and have our lovely family.”

It was their little girl’s birth – a much-longed for daughter after three sons – which proved a turning point for Hamilton.

“Having Ella has taken me into a new chapter in my life and I want her to be proud of me. Her arrival’s helped me finally be able to make peace with my past. I feel like I never used to have a good opinion of myself, but now I actually love me, because I’m not a nasty person. I haven’t done anything outrageous, I’ve just tried to live a quiet life. Although my job may be in the public eye, when I’m not working, I’m just at home with the family like any other mum.

“I do get people saying nasty things because my children have different fathers, but I feel I would have been a worse mum staying in relationships which were detrimental to me and my children’s happiness. Sometimes you have to walk away,” she insists.

“I stand by all my decisions and feel I made the right ones. I’m a control freak, but I’ve realised you can do all you can to make your life right, but it’s not always down to you, it’s down to the other person, and you can’t control them.

“Is it what I wanted out of my life? No, of course not. But I have my lovely sons and now a daughter and you just have to stop dragging the baggage of the past around with you and move on.”

The couple’s busy lives – Ritchie’s recently toured with Five – mean currently marriage plans are on the back-burner.

“We talk about marriage all the time, but it’s time-consuming and stressful to plan a wedding and we want to give Ella and the boys all our time before we start thinking about something else. We’re not in any rush,” she says.

“Ritchie’s a wonderful father and totally besotted with Ella, who’s the most adorable baby. She’s already saying ‘mama’ and ‘dada’ and starting to crawl. He says she’s going to have him wrapped around her little finger when she gets older!

“I had a home birth and it was very emotional for him as a first-time father. He told me after seeing me go through that he had such respect and admiration for me as a mother and was really proud of me, which was so lovely.”